LovE & TimE

Well, for young ppl lik us... we hav lots and different category peoples...
Types of attitude and relationship in love are categorised, and so lasting relationships and problems are as well define by them...

I had a fren (cant say his name)... Lets giv a nick... "BuddyA" He once had a girlfren, for about a year... Suddenly the girl somehow keep away from him... He is a pure good man and loyalty... Due to the girl's avoidation, he just abit mad and sad, and he told his fren on facebook, and even use fouls in typing... Well, this make 1 big mistake... He didnt close the facebookchat, and somehow his girlfren log on his fb and saw the fb chat... Then suddenly avoided forever.. From my point of view, i suspect that girl use this oppotunity to make a break up...
Of coz as pure he is, he wouldnt give up... (Love his spirit) As time passes by, i hang alot with him always... He's always down... No matter how happy he is, nothing can get his stress completely done... Well, till now, i can say its ord a year... Well, he's been into a college, and no other girls go into his mind... And worse thing is, all this year, i only see him facebook stalking her profile and everything.. his ex gf even had a groom... well, zombie minded as always...
Poor guy...

Now this is "BuddyB" ... He is quite a long fren to me as well... He's quite an impatient, judgemental person... He is always good to girls and gangs who are opened minded style like st.john or scout members... He desired a girlfren as well... His 1st gf was half way done, and no news of breaking... 2nd gf, i saw her face can knw wat type of person she is... very aneh aneh style, confirmed dirty minded... Well, i did tell him abit on that..
Me: thats yr gf? the way she react to u doesnt like she accepted u as boyfren...
BuddyB: oh its ok, we were lik this...
Me: yr previous gf... u oso say the same thing = =
BuddyB: ...
Me: well, this is my phychology looks... yr 2nd gf now... she kinda abit, naughty girl, not a pure one...
BuddyB: WHAT??????
Me: Ah... nothing...

Thing always happen like this, until they realised it, i havnt got the chance to wake them until they suffered...

after SPM he went to PLKN, that time i hang alot with "BuddyA" old fren...
after PLKN buddyB is back, we hangs out and he told me he got another one... 3rd... He likes her... And they didnt seem quite a qualified or officially requested couple.. Same as previous both ex... But this is abit too front... Actually i didnt heard much of this, and i heard their phone call few times too...

Well, abt last week... He finally got a gf... a 4th 1... my god... well i think 3 years passed oredi... but i heard it, very swt... a girl knew frm meetoto... live in sabah... no physical contact, on lik this... This time i really make him serious about my talks.. i said: this type of relationship wont last long, its just 4yr pleasure... he take abit of note this time... at the same time, a case comes...
is 3rd chase him back... and really chasing him... @.@

Well, as i said, he's kinda impatient... He just on with a gf, and this old 1 came back to him... He tries so hard during plkn and he got rejected by 2 times... As i said too, he really desires a girlfren...
(Wher am i now, its not a complete story, and its soooo complicated...)
the 3rd msg to buddyB everyday... asking whether its true he got a new gf...
he said he had already...
she said whether she had a chance again? if ther is she will wait...
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... (long story)
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at last, she step back...
I told him, i knw he of coz has feelings for both... he shoudnt hurt his current gf now... and he shd tell her he is in a dilemma...

-old girl rejected him 2 times, but accepted in the wrong time
-new girl who hav good relationship in each other, but never physical in contact as disadvantage...

that night i counsel him until i oso like drag into his case =.=
well, its settled... his old gf no chances, coz he got 1 now...
but unwise choice, if he could juz wait a lil longer...


Back to "BuddyA" , i think that girl of his learn some lesson of mixing wrong guy or without him... finally she came back to senses a little... I was so fkin shocked to hear this... oredi years, she came back finally? without hopeless heart suddenly just got it... yet with a groom... LOL = =
they will stay in that quiet state for another year... then will get close...
A couple who quarels can be a real lover to each other... Thats how they learn to love each other... For those couple who nvr quarels, hah... last long meh? when quarel once, who knws both side got pissed,and the end of both...
same goes to a "friend" , a true friend will quarel with you... bcoz a fren u will nvr quarel with means u will always stay a distance with them... keep a distance, so realtionship will be good... but inside, not close...
Well, we must give time and space to ourselves, and also to ppl around us...

Long ago, "BuddyB" tells me about his story and i dono on his which gf...
And i said: u really desired a girlfren huh?
BuddyB: Yah.. i do...
Me: Most boys need girls, but some girls dont need boys...
BuddyB: its true, i wonder why...
Me: From ancient times, man need girl for their pleasure and for the sake of inherit the surname of his... For girls, their biggest dream is awaits a handsome wonderful nor a perfect prince to meet her in fate... A good man
Well, that is old times dont they? But now the world is modern, thinking level is deeper, wider and complicated desires... boy just want a girl to love with is it? For most girls, they can start their own world now, and most boys are impured, so they prefer to be single... or they nvr thought of wanting a boyfren...

Time passed until about last month, we chitchat abt this to counsel his prob, and we had conversations again...
BuddyB: Ooo.. Owh hows you? Someone came u had a crush on?

Me: Someone i had a crush on? =.=, I..... dont know ^^

BuddyB: wat do u mean u dont know? Do u want a girlfren in the 1st place?

Me: Eh.... To....

BuddyB: just say do u want a girlfren?

Me: ...



Its true that i cant answer that question... But all i can reply is, "Im nt sure abt it, well fate will came and time will decides"

I just wonder y it is so hard for me to answer this question?
A girlfren, chase a girl...

In my thought, if i failed, my heart will be in very very deep pain.. as im more sensitive minded...
And also, once i looked into one, i wont looks others already... And i had stronger will than "BuddyA" , so wat happens if i fall in a hopeless love?
Am i gonna be a zombie for decade?

Think about it, i do wish to have one eh? But why i couldnt say so? Single is always good... But somehow just a little lonely... So whats my purpose of wishing to have one?

BuddyB: I want a girlfren always like u predicted... One of my fren as well, he wanted a girl to care for him...

Me: (That makes a little sense)

I got it... Want a girl to care for you.. To have ur big world to share with... to open her eyes, let her see a man's dream... Someone who can understands you deeper, someone u can learn to love and sacrifice for them, understanding and appreciation of "LOVE"

But though i its not simple to get 1, and i hope if someday i got 1, i hope she is as loyal as i am... But out of that, now i still dont plan on doing anything, cant do things too harsh... Just let time change everything~ Time is such useful thing, buddyA's overcome patience of time, and he succeeded, buddyB shd learn some patience too...

As for relationships for love or friends...
For those who pissed or quarel with me before in any situations... If we could get better, overcome the pain we had once b4, and prepared for anytime and ready face our fate , i think we can get into a better relationship...Coz the world doesnt hav "eternal peace" So now I will giv our mind space and time... For those who just ended relationship in just 1 quarel or childish stuff, well sorry cant help u too much now, when i had powers to cr8 miracle i will help u someday ^^